Attention! Are You a Frustrated Christian “Perfectionist”?
Here are the 3 Things You Need to Know to Experience Peace, Freedom, and Purpose!
- Do you want your day to be full of meaning and purpose, but at the end it just seems like a waste, and you feel guilty, disappointed, or disillusioned?
- Do you get sparks of inspiration for new things you want to try, only to have the flashbacks of gut-wrenching disappointment and embarrassing memories extinguish all motivation?
- Does your job leave you unfulfilled, going through the motions but doubtful it has any meaningful impact beyond getting a paycheck?
- Are you uncertain about your identity, hesitant to be someone other than the labels you’ve been given, but desperate to know who the “real you” is?
- Are you “fine”…but you want to be delighted, joyful, dynamic, confident, hopeful,…alive?
If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, then you need to reclaim your Supernatural Kingdom Identity…and the more you answered “yes” to, the more you need it!
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You may be asking yourself, “Why Randy? What does he know about this?”
For much of my life, I knew what it was like to have my identity defined for me by others, and to have to live up to it. I didn’t realize it most of the time, and the people in my life I allowed to do it were all well-meaning, but it happened anyway.
As a child at home, I had the role of co-caregiver to my Grandma, and sometimes caregiver to my Mom, too. In school, I was “the smart one”—which, of course, meant that I was good in all school subjects (and liked them all), but wasn’t athletic at all. I was picked on by fellow students and beat up more than I’d like to remember.
I was a very sensitive, emotional child, but in third grade my Gifted and Talented Educate (G.A.T.E.) teacher warned my parents to be very careful and watch me closely because with that combination of emotional sensitivity and highly-developed intellect, I was at risk for serious emotional, and maybe even psychological issues. So I learned, subconsciously for the most part, to be careful about that part of my emotional nature and bury it.
Because I was capable of so much—which I’m grateful was nurtured and encouraged by my family—and had the responsibility and expectation I did, I was a perfectionist. I expected a lot of myself, never wanted to let anyone down, and knew that in some parts of my life (especially the health of my family) there was no room for error, so my standard became 100% all the time. Whether I had to earn other people’s favor or not, I had to earn my own. That’s a very exhausting way to grow up, but it’s the only way I knew how to be.
Even as I got older, I allowed myself to have my identity defined by others. I joined the Worship Team at my church as the drummer for 9 years, not missing a Sunday because if I didn’t do it, who would? That was my role. I was insecure, so I looked to others that I respected—or wanted to respect—to tell me who I was and what that meant…probably because I didn’t know how to find out otherwise.
God had been slowly working on me for years, but it accelerated when I was in my 20’s thanks to, of all places, Disneyland. Disneyland became the place where I could “recapture my childhood,” reconnect with the emotional side of myself I’d buried, and escape. I could be anyone I wanted to be, live out adventures that were impossible in the “real world”, and begin to reclaim my individual identity. The more time I spent there and got to know it, the more valuable it became to me and the more I wanted to learn.
At the same time, God used Bible College to teach me not only what He had in store for me in that season of my life, how to study the Bible and how to preach meaningful and relevant message grounded in the Bible, but also who He had created me to be—my Supernatural Kingdom Identity that is rooted in Him and uniquely expresses itself through me.
These two pieces became integral parts of me, and in “peeling back the layers of the onion” using my training and understanding of God and the Bible, I saw that Disneyland could not only do for others what it did for me, but I could use it to capture and communicate to you the lessons God had taught me about your Supernatural Kingdom Identity.
I spent much of my life having my identity defined for me by others, or defining it in terms of what others needed me to do or expected me to be. But now I define myself through Him and who He created me to be—what He desires for me, not what anyone else expects, and my passion is to help you do the same.